Seventh House: House o' Relationships

The affairs of the seventh house are always connected to the outside world and the relationships we tend to create. Its Latin motto is Uxor, which translates to "wife/spouse," with its special role as a mirror of our own Self found in other people. While it's often called the house of marriage, it governs all our relationships, partnerships, and things we recognize in other people as reflections of ourselves. It correlates to the sign of Libra, representing our primal balance and our ability to connect with others in the closest way possible. This embodiment gives us the task to find peace in regard to something specific, and this is seen through the sign on the seventh house cusp, planets inside this house, and its ruler.

• Zodiac Sign: Libra
• Ruling Planet: Venus
• Long-term relationships
• Marriages
• Business partners
• Enemies
• Legal contracts

Areas of Life

All areas of life that fall under the seventh house are in a way a reflection of the first house of one's natal chart. Just as the first house is who we are, the seventh house is who everyone else is, best seen through the connection between our physical body and the outer body of circumstances. This is the house of our partners, speaking of our approach to everyone we meet and contact. It is also the house of marriage and partnership of any kind, including business partners, and all the positive things we see in it show our predisposition to qualities we admire in others, especially those we are in close, intimate relationships with.

This house is also our going out into the public, and very often we will see the Sun or the Ascendant ruler of famous people set in their seventh house. As our ultimate judgment, it speaks of legal matters and law in general, just as it was touched by Astraea or Justitia, the lady of justice among the deities of old. This is our touch with tact, represents diplomatic relations of all kinds and speaks of intense, obvious ties to those who openly disagree with our personality, methods, or choice. As such, it connects us to all known enemies and those we get in conflict with.

Seventh House in Aries

With the seventh house set in the sign of Aries, tact is not often found in close relationships. There is always something hidden in the culture of conflict that needs to be learned, and the most common scenario speaks of one’s tendency to ignore the benefits of conflict, avoiding it even if it would be constructive and useful. This will pose a challenge in setting clear boundaries, and in any suppressed case this will speak of anger and aggression tied to intimate bonds. In a very positive context, this position points to the ingenuity and energetic nature of a partner, as well as the strong drive filled with rich sexual experiences in marriage and serious relationships one has. Once constructive conflict is accepted and clear boundaries are set with those who jeopardize one’s wellbeing, this becomes an energetic seventh house that gives power and makes us feel alive.

Seventh House in Taurus

With the seventh house in Taurus, there is always a challenge of two sides of Venus in the area of relationships. Taurus is the sign of practical values and grounded, earthy beauty, sometimes too simple for “blue-blooded” personalities turned to refined, sensitive outer beauty. The seventh house corresponds to the sign of Libra, and as such speaks of outside beauty, makeup, pose, and vanity in its challenges. When these two extremes coincide, jealousy will easily surface, and matters of balance will again be underlined. Relationships can become vain and judgmental, typical for those who weren’t told how pretty they are in their entire self-expression often enough. It is extremely important for outer and inner beauty to combine into one, so all relationships in one’s life can become truly enjoyable and filled with sensual physical contact and closeness Taurus provides when the affairs of Venus are solved.

Seventh House in Gemini

If the seventh house is set in Gemini, it is obvious there is a lot of talking to be done in this lifetime. This is a person that sees communication as a key to any situation. Intimacy is reached through conversations, people meet in social gatherings, and the image of a chatty friend is often overly underlined. This can lead to estrangement and an inability to create true intimate contact, especially if the Moon isn’t strong enough to deal with one’s mental capabilities. It is always important to work on the emotional state in such a case, for only deep emotion, forgiveness, and childish joy can make this Gemini partner as happy and light as they should be. In many cases, this position speaks of multiple marriages, often as a consequence of too much deliberation combined with a strange mental spontaneity out of sync with one’s heart.

Seventh House in Cancer

If the seventh house cusp starts in the sign of Cancer, much of our ancestry and family is left in the sphere of relationships. It is almost impossible to separate one’s personal goals and bonds formed with other people from the goals of their parents and close family members who were role models in one’s upbringing. In such a position, ego and personality have to be clearly defined, and the Sun needs to be developed through creative activities and a diligent approach to one’s inner child. All this person needs is awareness of their true core and personality traits that set them apart from family members and values learned at home. When partners are chosen in sync with one’s own sensitivity and character, relationships will be filled with tenderness, emotion, and closeness, leading to a healthy family life and functional marriages that last.

Seventh House in Leo

With the seventh house in Leo, all relationships depend solely on one’s ability to find common ground and a point of agreement with others, instead of meaninglessly compromising and going to extremes by doing and not doing what others want. Leo’s main challenge is in the unity that can be found in connection to the rest of the human race, and since this already puts emphasis on the Ascendant in Aquarius, this is always hard to achieve as an innovative, strange, and peculiar individual. These people need confident partners that don’t take things too personally and have to find ways in which they can function as one with those who are less rational and much fierier than they appear to be. There is no authority in "we," and as long as they realize that respect has to be unconditional and flow equally both ways, they will form healthy bonds filled with warmth.

Seventh House in Virgo

The seventh house set in the sign of Virgo speaks of humility and focuses on matters of criticism, an ability to find satisfaction in the real world, and form relationships that don’t necessarily have to be perfect to last. In the sign of Virgo, there is always something that needs to be fixed, and this position will lead one to search for something unobtainable in many cases, or make them settle for less than they deserve due to feelings of guilt, incompetence, or a simple lack of self-esteem. All unhealthy issues will accumulate here, so this house needs a lot of cleansing, constructive effort, and change to reach a state that satisfies that dreamy first house in Pisces. Matters of faith and disappointment rely heavily on the story of Venus, for obviously reasonable expectations need to be set when communicating with other people.

Seventh House in Libra

This is a natural placement of the seventh house, leading to a natural approach to relationships, marriage, and an ability to be tactful and diplomatic toward others, no matter if they are our friends or our enemies. People born with the seventh house in Libra have a natural ability to choose those who mirror their core personality. However, the sign of Libra carries its challenges regarding the Sun and always presents a trial when it comes to keeping our individuality as we tightly interact with others. The upside of this position is in the ability to separate social life from one’s private life, but a rational approach can be damaging to one’s heart, and emotions need to be nurtured and respected at all times. The institution of marriage often becomes important over time, and these people tend to evolve from confident lone lovers to married, faithful partners, for better or for worse.

Seventh House in Scorpio

With the seventh house set in the sign of Scorpio, one needs ultimate closeness to find satisfaction. This is a very difficult position to please, and the nature of the first house already shows an ability to create tender closeness and intimacy that is usually ignored and belittled by others. The tricks to finding happiness in such a position are found in the emotional source of the Moon, self-love, and an ability to forgive, forget, and make changes when the time is right to do so. As soon as this person puts deserved satisfaction at the top of their priority ladder, everything will get easier, and connections to other people will vanish, while healthy relationships with one’s own life, decisions, and choices will become an imperative. Until then, jealousy and possessive relationships are inevitable, and happiness becomes that distant light seen from the underworld Scorpio rules.

Seventh House in Sagittarius

If the seventh house is set in Sagittarius, its changeable nature interferes with one’s ability to form lasting relationships. There is always something unobtainable in this distant sign, and an inability to materialize desire often leads to long-distance relationships or simply to connections to people who aren’t stable, close, intimate, or those who are already taken. With Sagittarius, there is always a philosophy that leads to certain events, and this position simply materializes beliefs. In a practical sense, we can best understand this through an example of a person who lives convinced that all people of the opposite sex cannot be trusted. This specific belief will lead to relationships that prove them right, and one will be disappointed again and again, cyclically proving the image projected to the outer world. To move on from repetitive choices, one needs to learn and broaden their perspectives until they understand what inner changes can lead to a more satisfying environment.

Seventh House in Capricorn

While the seventh house in Capricorn often speaks of limitations and characters that are hard to combine with one’s core personality, it gives a certain sense of responsibility and patience toward other people. With enough rest and solitude, this is a person who can anticipate other people’s behavior and approach them in a way that makes everyone feel protected and safe. The main challenge here is to tear down all walls around the heart of the chart owner and the people in their life. Every pain will be reflected in an inability to build close relationships, and memories tend to distract one from building the future they wish for. If there is guilt, and they believe they’ve made too many mistakes, these people might even give up on love, thinking they don’t deserve it or aren’t worthy of those who could make them truly happy. Every lesson learned here has to be deep and entire, while progress needs to be achieved at all times, overcoming the static need to stand in one place, tied to those who don’t make them smile.

Seventh House in Aquarius

Aquarius is a sign that speaks of divorce and separation, as well as all oppositions that combine in perfect harmony in nature around us. When the system is balanced, and one has an equal perception of themselves and others, this is a liberating sign that will bring much excitement, joy, and constant surprises, while emotions tend to erupt from time to time, creating fireworks in their love life. Still, Aquarius comes after Capricorn, and its foundation is cold and patterned, while the mental nature of Aquarius isn’t exactly supportive of emotional closeness. This is much less a challenge of honesty with others, but rather a challenge of honesty with oneself. We need to understand that partners turn out to be unstable simply due to this person’s inner need to be reflected in people who are different and moving. Closeness has to come from the deepest core of one’s heart, and with a strongly set Moon, this is a seventh house that fills everyone around this person with excitement and beauty.

Seventh House in Pisces

When the seventh house begins in Pisces, matters of trust are paramount for any healthy relationship one might have. Beliefs create destiny, while there is often some sort of mission one has to fulfill to find satisfaction and happiness. In many cases, this position speaks of betrayal and strange partners, close bonds with people who are talented and creative but also unstable, lost, distant, psychologically troubled, or prone to substance abuse. Addictions are almost inevitable here until one learns to believe in their own abilities and trust in others correctly and with clearly set boundaries. There is a lot of emotion and romance here, and as long as the minds of these people don’t interfere with affairs of the heart, they will progress toward more and more fulfilling relationships in life. There is magic in this position, and the greatest potential for a fairy tale ending is hidden here, if only there is enough faith and dedication to reach this goal.